Emily Barber Bigelow

Although Stephen Decatur Wilbur connects with numerous people in the army, college, societies, church, and the school system, it is "Little Emily Barber" that starts my journey of fascination with the man who lost an arm during the Civil War.

Stephen, my grandmother's adoptive father is her biological grandfather. She tells us little snippets about him with wonder herself. We hear less about her grandmother, and nothing about his only surviving daughter who dies in childbirth when she is born.

Several years ago while searching for more information on this Leoria Carolyn Wilbur, I find a 1900 article from Joyce M. Tice Tri-Counties Newspapers' website. 


How is the little flower girl at the wedding of a Wilbur and Meeker related to us?

The story of my second-great-grandfather begins with Emily Barber Bigelow:


The wedding of Miss Leoria C. Wilbur and Albert Meeker took place last evening a 8 o'clock at the home of the bride's parents. Mr. and Mrs. S.D. Wilbur, No 67 Park Street. About sixty friends attended the wedding. The residence and lawn were handsomely decorated. In the house were palms, potted plants and evergreen, while large flags were a conspicuous feature of the decorations. The porch was enclosed with American flags, while the yard was brilliantly lighted and decorated and utilized by the guests. The marriage ceremony was performed under a canopy made of a large flag, by the Rev. Dr. H. M. Crydenwise of Lestershire, assisted by the Rev. D. L. Meeker of Lanesboro. Mrs. Laura White of the state hospital play Lohengrin's wedding march. The bride was attired in a gown of white mousseline de sole, over white silk, and she carried a bouquet of white carnations. She was attended by Miss Esther Skoglund of Oakland, Pa., who was dressed in pink organdie over pink silk. Haliam (William) Pierson was best man and little Emily Leona Barber, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. J. C. Barber, was flower girl. After the ceremony a wedding supper was served and Mr. and Mrs. Meeker left for a wedding tour. They will be home after November 1 at 47 Park Street. Mr. and Mrs. Meeker are popular young people. Both are members of the Lestershire M. E. Church. Mr. Meeker being identified with the Brotherhood of St. Paul, and Mrs. Meeker with the Queen Esther circle, as well as with the Bartlett Relief Corps and the Good Templars. Among those present were Mrs. Frank Tripp and daughter Mildred. Misses Esther and Frances Skoglund of Oakland, Mrs. Julia Tripp and son of Owego and Rev. and Mrs. D.L. Meeker of Lanesboro.